We all have way too many things in our lives on a weekly basis to ever feel like we get everything done. Obligations, commitments (real or imagined) and self imposed standards about how we will comport ourselves with one another affect us in huge ways. Whether it's at work, in your friendships, in your family or in your romantic relationships - a lot of time is spent on others and worrying about others. Long ago I discovered something I have tried very hard never to forget. I

In mid July, I sent an email out to a few thousand people in the UCLA Anderson alumni database. The message was pretty simple. Hey everyone, thank you for helping by volunteering for the program I run. Hey girls, would you help too? It returned a cool response and more women started raising their hands to volunteer and mentor. Then something entirely wonderful incredibly awesome happened, but I wasn't sure I could tell anyone. A writer at the Wall Street Journal contacted me