Wednesday, April 10, 2013

No - I WON'T work FOR you! Who do you think you are?

A while back when I was beginning to collaborate on a new venture with a successful leader, there was the requisite 'get to know you' phase. Sure we had had plenty of coffee and more than enough cocktails to be sure we shared a vision and a goal, but it was still new. Having never worked on a project together, this leader didn't know my skills nor I theirs. (yes being gender neutral means being grammatically incorrect.)

At one point I had been asked to proceed without understanding the logic behind a decision I didn't like. The leader said to me,

"I realize you've never worked for me before. 
Other people who have would follow me off a cliff!!" 

The moment was remarkable.

I was at a point in my life and in my career where I didn't want to ever work FOR someone again, instead I was ready to work WITH someone. I was ready to take risks, calculated risks, and wanted to dive head on into the project. BUT I was not following anyone anywhere, let alone off a cliff.

Long discussions with trusted friends revealed I wasn't so crazy for that desire. It was time to take my seat at the table not as the enthusiastic cheerleader and hardest little worker ever, but instead as the collaborator, the fighter, and a leader in my own right.

This morning, post way-too-early-to-be-photogenic-deep-sand-sweat session with a fellow thoughtful fighter, I was trolling internet business news and I came across this article by J.T. O'Donnell, Career & Job Search Expert | CEO of CAREEREALISM Media.

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Turns out Top Performers Never Work "FOR" a Company. It's a quick read and a great reminder.

Seems like I should have maybe just started out with the confidence of a collaborator. Skills learned all along the way were part of what I was getting out of the deal and my employers were getting a pretty darn good little asset every day I showed up!

Yesterday morning, I attended a conversation about impact marketing at Tory Johnson's Spark & Hustle convention and met a ton of inspired and productive entrepreneurs. Last night I attended yet another career panel at UCLA for undergrads. I really do have a cool job. This particular one, held at Anderson was for Women in Business and I was excited to hear the questions from the coeds about finding mentors, developing leadership skills, and crafting careers. There is a wicked ambitious and thoughtful generation about to enter the work force and companies are about to have a whole lot of great people ready to work WITH them.

Today, realize you already are a leader in your own way.  
Today, realize you can get as much as you give and you deserve to. 
Today, take on those humpday curves with strength and confidence and kick some tail!

Girls Just Wanna Have Fun

A Power Blonde Gets Camera Ready - 1 Min - 5 Minute Makeover Not much more too it than that! Here's how I go from just a wee bit mid workday drab, to super camera cute for appearances like the ones on Huff Post Live! It's a five minute job if you start with the right tools. I'm a Laura Mercier and Nars kinda girl!